Welcome to SR Megs,,,, glad you could join us.
Welp... Im starting to sound like an old timer here and Im pretty new myself.... advise?
Let go, start your own recovery, figure out what you want for YOU, decided what you can and cant live with, attend counceling, Al-non, Read....
Im sorry you have to live with this situation but the truth of it really is you cant do anything about him.. his recovery. All you can do is get the tools to help yourself and your babygirl. You do need to remember though you did not cause this, its not your fault. You cant control it, that is his problem (wrinkles her nose - detachment) and you certainly cant cure him... again his issue.
Treat yourself and your babygirl Well.