Without wishing to sound patronising...
Without wishing to sound patronising or worst of all, stating the obvious...sobriety is like life itself, you have to rely on yourself. To rely on anyone or anything else is, in whole or part, a waste of time...only you, as we all exist in our state of mind, can make you happy.
Perhaps emphasised by Kant's saying,'It is not God's will merely that you be happy, but that we should make ourselves happy.'
Change your state of mind or perspective and you change your mind...just a thought.