In your last post regarding mediators my advice was it works as long as both parties are on board. I don't' think that is the case here.
Its not uncommon AT ALL for attorneys to advise not to get a job in the midst of a divorce. It will affect your spousal settlement.
I think like shootingstar1 - At this point get over the penny pinching you are risking the rest of your life with trying to mediate with your A. I question whether moving out is the right thing to do as well. I think you need the guidance of an attorney BIG TIME.
As for finding a place to live cash is king. You may not have a rental history and are currently seeing issues because of it - but most people will rent to those with no credit/bad credit with an increased security deposit.