Originally Posted by
lizatola 
And, to follow up on the financials: I think I'd be willing to just accept a lump sum payoff from him. That would keep me from having to deal with him him the future and trying to squeeze money out of him especially if his alcoholism gets worse and he loses his job or whatever. Sigh....long week!
I'm sorry I don't have any real advice, but I wanted to suggest a red flag I see.....
Since he is irrational, what would stop him from NOT giving you a lump sum, just so he CAN continue to be in your life and mess with your head. Right now he may feel like he has the upper hand, but I wouldn't put it past him to flip the switch. If I were you, I'd play this out in the most non threatening way until you can high-tail it out of there. And my priority would be severing all I could as quickly as possible.... forget everything else. Anyway, good luck!!!! Not an easy situation to navigate at all.