Give yourself time Jim - I was pretty screwed up after all my years of smoking weed and drinking.
I was so screwed up I wasn't even aware I was screwed up until about 3 months after I quit.
There's a quote I wish I'd known back then:
Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.
Addiction makes you self centred and self absorbed. That's not a criticism, it's just a fact...
as addicts, we live a lot in our own head.
You'll find things get better man
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