Hi Cecilia.
Sorry that you are drinking now. Like Lethe said, recovery is as good as you make it. Our lives are our creations and we are free to change things in it that are not working well or which we don't like. Sometimes it takes a lot of work, but possible. It's tough to have loved ones with addiction problems, but many people deal with it successfully; I don't think it's a good approach to blame our drinking on anyone because that way we avoid dealing with our problems.
As for SR, I think the best is to use it in any way that we find helpful. I've been posting pretty regularly and consistently since I got sober, because it helps me and because I like to interact. Many people prefer to mostly read the posts. You can also choose to interact with a select few also if that's better for you. In other words, SR, like life, is what you make of it...
I hope you will find your way
