My husband, when he was drinking heavily, would always tell me he wanted me to adore him. LOL so I think my definition is going to be different than yours! My husband also has a demanding, abusive father that he could never live up to, and as a result I can never give him enough praise or attention.
I think it's healthy to want to be respected, loved, and made to feel that your contributions are appreciated. To me, the idea of adoration makes me think of worship, and I'm sure that's not really what you meant.
I like to feel loved, like I'm special to someone, that without me, life would be just a bit duller and harder. And I think that's normal. It means that you are special to someone else, and we all want that. And when we live with an alcoholic, whether they are active or, like in your case, not active but acting like an active, it's extremely hard to have any emotional needs met.