I am not in the relationship anymore but I have really thought about this a bunch. I would not do it over again.
I have learned a lot from the experiences I've had. I've learned a lot of really good things but I also sustained a lot of psychological damage...the bad things I learned. The bad outweighs the good. I think had I not let him into my life, I would have progressed much farther then I have. I think I would be mentally and physically healthier. As far as the good things I've learned like the ways I have matured and the strength I have acquired...I think I would have matured and gained strength of mind regardless of him. Like I said the bad outweighed the good...the abuse stunted my growth and traumatized me. Had I been in a healthy relationship or no relationship at all, I bet you I would be way better off despite the few things I did gain/learn from a miserable situation. The reality for me is it was a bad decision that I kept making over and over again....until I didn't.