Yes I agree with jazzfish that to want your spouse to adore you isn't wrong by itself, but can be in the way you go about it. I was just wondering to what extent would your spouse need to go to prove that to you? The way you explained it here, I see your spouse showing the opposite. I've noticed a little bit of attention can go a long way in fulfilling that desire in myself and my spouse. Because I think most of us have that desire at least in part...to be highly respected and admired by our spouse. That to me is not unhealthy.