Sorry to hear! Personally I think that the current system is set up to protect abusive men; my judge was stupid.
I set up an account with CoFamilies so that all of our communication was documented by an untamperable, third party system. The "proof" I bring into the judge the next time will be much easier to prove. It also cuts down our communication because I reserve the right to communicate how I wish, and keeps me sane because of the minimal contact. Google CoFamilies if you think it might help! Good luck hun!!!