Glad things have settled down a bit SL. Even though my husband is not drinking, I told him tonight that I am just getting exhausted of always being upset. His mother crossed a boundary with me tonight that has made me upset, and I just getting tired of it all. I wonder if she crossed this boundary when she was drinking tonight b/c she was not like this the other day during the afternoon. I am getting to the point where I realize I can live without my husband b/c there is just too much work and drama all the time. I know that I would grieve him, but I think it would be easier living without him.
Anyways, good luck with your husband. From the outside looking in, it looks like it will be hard for your husband to cope with his cravings. It seems like a support network like AA would be really good for him. AA worked for me and helped me to accept my disease and the powerlessness of my addiction.