I like whoever said thinking about it as a stage.
I needed to take a break from some of my relationships. Though wonderful they were formed in a time that I was enmeshed in codependency and often that is what attracted me to a person.
Some of my relationships have weathered this change, some have not. Just recently (it has taken me awhile) I have been willing to explore new relationships because I think I am ready.
There is a big difference between talking about problems and challenges in life and it being part of "healing" vs a perpetuation of the problem. I am starting to find people in my life who are willing to look at their own stuff. It has been lonely at times, but also very necessary. It has given me some time to figure out me.