Originally Posted by
Katchie 
I probably should have waited but I went ahead and asked if he has been drinking today and of course he said he promised he hasn't and he's been "good" all week and he's just working hard for Christmas. I hate feeling like I'm his mommy. Again, I don't think I'm believing him and I know I need to trust my gut. I talked to him about the money card he handed our son and I'm not kidding you, the first thing out of his mouth was, "its not like I'm trying to buy him off or something!" I have NEVER accused him of that, not even with the things he buys me, so it must be his own guilt telling on him.
I hate gaslighting. It confused me for a long time. Not just A's but lots of manipulative people do it and I cannot stand it. Trust yourself. Do not expect him to fess up. He isn't going to without some motive.
So, you have 5 boys for Christmas. That's a lot. Your laundry room, refrigerator and bathroom must get a workout! Living with one male is enough for me!