Originally Posted by
NYCDoglvr 
As we say in AA -- there's always an excuse but never a reason. I suggest forgoing all contact until he gets in a program, gets sober.
He is in AA, has a sponsor, works the steps. I am not going to forgo all.contact with him. He is not abusive in any way and has been a positive influence my life in many ways. People mess up. He's not in denial and he is working at it.
I remain hopeful that he'll get there. And if not, well along the way we've made each other happy for now. Can't ask for more than that now can I? No one knows the future and in the present, it's pretty good.