Originally Posted by
ando68 
The article jazzfish posted is more about people talking and focusing on the negative too much which I think is a separate issue. Examples of this can be seen in the treatment of addiction,, where groups of people sit around for years talking and focusing on the negative aspects of their drinking and drug use, rehashing it over and over. Other approaches just quit using the substance and the memories related to it and focus more on the present and getting on with living their life.
ando68, this is exactly why I posted it. I had to take a big step back from the amount of time I was spending on "recovery" and think about why I wasn't getting better.
As far as depression from the loss of a child, it is really beyond me or the article to address. However, I have seen (not experienced personally) people benefit from being pulled back into regular activities after a reasonable grieving period. As a father, I cannot imagine the depth of grief and you have my deepest sympathies MIRecovery.