Harsh as some posts may seem to you, I know from eight, almost nine years on these boards that every post comes from a place of caring.
If you feel like you're doing the right thing, keep doing it. But do consider that people here are sharing their experiences of living with addictions and recovery -- their own and others' -- and as much as you may get annoyed at the advice, tuck it away somewhere for possible future use.
I started posting here, then hated the advice I got so much that I only read and didn't post for the better part of... three years or so. What I learned during that time carried me through some very hard times.
I hope things go well for you.