We tend to parent the way we were parented as children, unless we've had any intervention since then. I'm an Adult Child of an Alcoholic, and yes, I catch myself treating my children the way I was treated growing up. I hate it and I'm working on it, but it's still there. I see it in their faces and it breaks my heart. Lots of therapy on my end to try to break the cycle. And no, I am not married to an A.