Originally Posted by
Butterfly 
Yes I am still grieving and yes it has been a slow process for me but I do feel I am moving forward and starting to recognise what the relationship was
I think most people who have followed your story would agree B. I've noticed you gain strength and perspective from periods of NC, but are still vulnerable when he tries to manipulate you.
Your daughter is old enough now for you to ask her not to pass on any messages or details of her conversations with him that concern you. Tell her you are detaching much better now, but the 'messages' still upset you. I'm sure she'll understand, and hopefully get how he's manipulating her and you.