Originally Posted by
LexieCat 
The compassionate thing to do--for both of you--is to just CEASE all contact. You can't heal if you keep ripping the scab off. And by continuing to engage with him, you are giving him hope that you'll come back to him--something you are telling us you don't want.
He isn't capable of making the right decision; you are. So do it.
Thank you LexieCat. I need to continue to ignore the contact and take it one day at a time. I mean it's been a year and 7 months since I moved out...I thought he'd have left me alone by now. I did initially ignore the Thanksgiving call but then he called my friend and that freaked me out so I responded and now I opened the door again. Have to shut it once again.