This would be my most urgent concern right now:
So, since AH has taken over the finances and has already bounced a payment, which he blames me for, LOL, he has been all over the family about the expenses. I'm doing my best to keep an eye on everything just in case he isn't but he didn't follow MY instructions on how to pay the Verizon bill and the bank charged us $35 for a returned payment, UGH.
You know, if he deliberately crashes your credit, it will be a lot harder for you to go out on your own. I'm not saying he's doing that, but if you've really handed all the finances over to him, you've given him a lot of power over not just your present but also your future. I know you've worked in finance so I don't have to tell you that -- I'm just worried because you have been so smart going about everything step by step, it would be very sad if me managed to screw it up at this point.