Hello! There is always a flipside to everything in life, and think of it this way... ONLY this amount of bad stuff has happened, and yeah, it is bad enough.
It will progress to other stuff, if it is drunk driving, hurting someone, hurting yourself, one of the kids, & more and more embarrassment.
The danger potential is off the charts.
And, you have a great, for now, relationship to keep...
It doesn't have to be that way though...trust the people on this site who all have similar stories...