Hi Serenity,
I know where you are coming from. It is really hard to explain this feeling. My AH has been in prison for 3 months for DUI's, our relationship has been dying for years. We have been married 23. When he was around I felt alone, I would dream and fantasize about what it would be like to be with someone who loved me. I don't think we realize what a blow we take to our self esteem as a woman living with an A. I am realizing it now. The truth is when someone of the opposite sex is nice or pays a compliment I don't know what to do. Let's face it we have needs, and these needs have been neglected for a long time. I don't think running out and jumping into another relationship is the answer for me. Maybe we could just rent a boy toy for a few hours JUST KIDDING. Really it is a hard place to be in and hopefully we will find our place in time. I just know if I am approached by another alcoholic I will run like the wind. Be safe in your choices it is a huge step we are taking.