Old 12-01-2014, 10:15 AM
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LittleBirds3
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I told my kids (7, 4, and 3 - so very young) that daddy is drinking too much alcohol and making bad choices. My 7 year old gets it... there is a workbook called "my daddy is sick, my daddy is an alcoholic" or something like that that has helped the 7-year-old get through it. I think it is possible, and even beneficial, to talk to your kids in an age-appropriate manner. Daddy is not showing up, is angry, isn't home, etc... if you don't explain to them why, the kids are going to think it is because of them (or because of you). I talked to the school counselor (and my oldest 2 are in therapy) and came up with some good, age appropriate language to use. I found that, after I talked to them about it, they actually handled the situation much better. I really think they just needed an explanation to help them process the situation. Without that explanation, they just kept thinking it was their fault - and they were just really hurt and confused.
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