Knowing you're a lawyer and one who has a wealth of experience w DV matters it means the world to me that you're amazed too by this.
And your explanation below makes perfect sense. I did outsmart and out negotiate and I feel proud of myself bc I did it with my kids best interest foremost in my mind.
Finally doin the right thing pays off. I had seriously begun to wonder.
Originally Posted by
LexieCat 
You weren't manipulative, you were a good negotiator. You simply used your own knowledge about what his weaknesses and worries and desires were to get what was in your and the kids' best interests. That's what negotiation IS. You weren't a powerful person exploiting a weaker one. You were clever and confident and it paid off, big-time.
I am still blown away by the outcome. Dazzled. And I'm not just saying that.