Originally Posted by
lizzy1988 
Hi 9111111, he is creating debt that I am worried about. I'm hoping I can convince him to play nicely so that we don't have to turn this into a war, that's not what I want. Thank you for your advice, I will definitely look into it.
The problem with hoping he will "play nice" is that you can't really trust him to do what he says he will. My ex kept promising every month to send money so that I wouldn't file for child support. When I finally did file, I lost out on nearly a year's worth of support payments because I believed his promises and the law won't let you backdate beyond the date of filing.
Protecting yourself financially and legally is not turning things into a war. If he chooses to take it that way, it's his problem.