You are NOT a bad mama. This is said from someone who is both an RA and a recovering codie.
My dad never had reason to arrest me, but he did refuse to bond me out of my last lockup, as much as it hurt him.
That was one of the consequences I needed to feel as an active A. There were more, but I am forever grateful for the people who loved me enough to say "I love you, but I WILL NOT help you keep using".
Going on 8 years in recovery, and though it was a one-person thing to do, I am forever grateful to the people who loved me enough to let me dig a deep hole and figure my own way out of it.
Love, hugs, and prayers,
Amy