Dear MarkDara, I too had my son arrested as he was stealing our jewelry and pawning items. He went to jail for 3 months and then into a rehab. All I can say is the boundary was important for ME because if I had allowed the behavior to continue, we would probably be in far worse shape. the time he spent in jail was actually peaceful for me because I knew where he was and that he was safe, however it is painful and dark and terrifying. I understand.