In effect, I know he's just trying to hold onto as much cash as he can. I, on the other hand, don't want to sell the house and then split the proceeds with him so that we can drain the money dry all while I sit anchored to an alcoholic who is quite capable of running our financial lives into the ground if he gets another DUI or similar problem.
Well, there you go, I think that says it right there. I think you are exactly right to get un-anchored and move on. Did you ever hear the saying. "The reason divorce is so expensive is because it's worth it"?