I was naive. Thought oh we can be collegial and collaborative.... What I learned is that my nice girl ways kept me in the A mess a long time...and then when it was time to divorce my ways only continued to hurt me...until I got a lawyer that was fast with a scalpel. You might not be ready for it...I definitely wasn't ...but you could cut off months if you rip the band aid off fast....I wish I had. Because either way it costs$