Originally Posted by
HealthyLiving 
When we first met, he mentioned that he "doesn't do ultimatums" and though he had somewhat tempered that along the way, I knew that change had to be up to him and I didn't want to get pulled any further into the vortex of codependency. I wrestled over and over whether to try to tell him he would have to change for me to stay, but I guess I knew in my heart he would choose alcohol...
Just wanted to share that I get the "I don't do ultimatums". If I had gotten one, or had an intervention, I would told anyone and everyone what they could do with themselves. I very well might have blown my brains out in front of them as a giant FU.
It would have had nothing to do with choosing alcohol or drugs. It would have been about being backed into a corner.