Originally Posted by Rubicon

What is reasonable for me to expect from my wife as she enters into IOP Treatment program? Our marriage is really frail right now. I am hip-deep into addressing my own co-dependency issues and making some progress. The book How to Love Someone in Recovery is helping me a lot. My wife is making progress in her treatment but I'm on the outside of knowing what really is going on with her treatment. Our marriage seems to be falling apart -the core issue, it would seem to me, has been she has made her relationship with the alcohol the priority relationship over her relationship with me. Any advice? We are both seeing counselors separately and meeting with a counselor as a couple.