Originally Posted by
suki44883 
No parent is perfect, but most of us do the best we can. Most of us have the welfare of our children at heart. Do we make mistakes? Hell yes! In the best of circumstances, being a good parent is very hard work. When we are trying to be a good parent while living with addiction, it's almost impossible. You did the best you knew how. Now that you know better, you are doing better.
It's obvious that your daughters feel safe with you. They wouldn't say the things they do if that were not the case. It is obvious that you are doing the best you can with a really, REALLY crappy situation. It just keeps going on and on and on and on. You can only do so much due to the area in which you are living. Still...little by little, your alcoholic is tightening the noose around his own neck. Things aren't going well for him so much anymore.
One thing this process has taught me is that "trusting the system" really means trusting it even 2 years in when the "system" seems to be messed up. In my town we went from 4 family court judges to 1 "marital master" (not even a real judge) so hearings have been postponed and motions ignored bc I guess this "master" just sees my case and all the others as paperwork to shuffle.
DCYF and the kids therapist have written their recommendations for the court, and xAH has lost his job due to his drinking and publicity about his abuse of the girls and I and so yes, he is a train wreck.
Early March is our next and I hope final court date. So until then I will just keep supporting my kids as best I can and being grateful for the support of family and friends who are great supports for my girls.