Ya my 10 year old son refuses to see his dad. We are still married but seperated so I don't make him see his dad at this time. My husband is in recovery but only very recently. When he was in active addiction I heard all the time that it was my fault our son feels the way he does you know because the lying, drinking, and using had nothing to do with it. I've thrown it out there that whenever my husband feels ready we can all go to family counseling. It's hard when kids are involved.