wtbh and thumper -
THAT is what I'm dealing with. The "just friends" dude that I confided everything in suggests going out more and doing things with him (and other girls that he goes out with) and they are all so laissez-faire and not responsible for kids like I am.
That is the line I am having to draw.
Unacceptable/unworkable doesn't work and my accommodating and going along and seeing what might be…doesn't work for me any more because the lonely part of me gets satiated for a few hours, but ends there, and I need to spend time with people I can count on who are willing to meet me on my terms - not just their own.