Originally Posted by
readerbaby71 You don't have to go to Alanon. If it is not working for you find something else. There are many roads to recovery.
In my city, I found CoDependents Anonymous to be more helpful for my journey than AlAnon because in CoDa the focus is strictly on me, whereas in AlAnon sometimes it is easier to get caught up in what "they" are doing and avoid my contributions.
Just my 2 cents for what its worth