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Old 01-01-2003, 06:08 PM
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liddy
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Hi Morning Glory
thanx for your welcome the other day !
had been reading this site on and off for wks before entering.
I am sometimes unsure of myself and my only 7mths of alanon
f2f meetings. I know you put alot of time in these rooms and I can see the wisdom you have spread here,its what I'm finding out about this program,the sharing, give and receive.
I have been reading alot about expectations lately,the disappointments that come when we expect people to respond the way we would like,it sets me up for a downslide almost every time !I used to think that if only son/daughter were sober and straight I would never even have to see them again(God bargaining?) now that she has been sober for some days I find out how much I miss her, then when I do see her the quality time just slips by that I had expected we would share and disappointment sets in.
Maybe what we need is honest expectations? Need to think about that.
anyway, a pg that has helped me when I'm being hard on myself is
pg19 "courage to change."The whole page is good and todays reminder is: Al-anon is a gentle healing program.I will remember to be gentle with myself today, trusting that the healing will come.
"Today I can accept myself for what I am because I know that whatever happens.I have a Higher Power and a group of people
who will love me anyway."
Wow, it sure makes me feel good and less hard on myself !
Be gentle on you
with love
liddy
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