Boy MG you really hit a nerve with me.
Never thought about it before, but you're right. All these years I've tried to please my Mom, so much so that I taught my children (now grown) dishonesty. I always told them "don't tell Grandma this or that" I was so afraid of making her mad, I trained them to lie about things that I had no backbone to stand up for
Now when one lies to me, I'm mad and its all my fault. It wasn't until my Mom was old that the roles reversed and I finally had to be the adult and she the child and I no longer had to lie to her.
What food for thought. Thanks