I also worry, as horrible as this sounds, that he will actually succeed on his own without me. He will have to pay rent and his own bills, and won't be able to count on me for that, so he will have to save his paychecks instead of spending them on vodka and at the bar, in order to maintain his own residence. Will he actually be able to do that? I doubt it, at least not for long, but I don't know. My hope is that he does, and that we are able to eventually have a relationship again. But what if he succeeds and finds someone else in the mean time? Then he will have been right all along, that all his problems were my fault.