We have the ability to look at this whole thing in whatever way we choose, and it makes sense to frame the issue in the way that will let us succeed. We are individuals, and that success framework may be different for us than for others.
My sobriety is based on positive things I can have rather than negative aspects I can avoid if I quit drinking. I think this conversation will be more successful if we focus on the positive results of new choices, including sobriety methods, rather than the negative results of the old ones.
And DonnieB is right, we can make this simple or we can make it hard. I know which one worked for me. Onward!