I can only say that I know my XAH regrets the RESULTS of his drinking. He still does not see it as the big problem I and my children know it to be. That tells me he has not even hit step #1, coming out of denial. Likely never will. I know he regrets getting caught so much. I know he regrets how he acted at times. However, regret means nothing at all. I was able to move on when I lowered my expectations of him to nothing at all.
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