Dear Lady....if you really want to wash that man out of your hair.....
You will need all the support that you can get for yourself...
You will need a program for healing.......
For starters.....
Educate yourself.....there are the Stickies at the top of this main page...lots of inspiration and support there for you. There is recommended reading material also.
Read the stories of others here, on SR.....there are hundreds and hundreds...
Therapy....alanon.....a personal therapist.....a woman's support group....
No contact.....(of course).
The sooner you get started...the better....
dandylion