I work for JDR & handle custody cases. I am not a lawyer. In my state 50/50 custody is legal custody. Meaning you both have equal say in medical/school etc decisions. All states favor this unless there is a reason for sole custody. Physical custody is where the children primarily live. Visitation is the time they spend with the other parent. 50/50 visitation is not realistic in most cases due to school & transportation. My ex & I do 50/50 visitation, but we live in the same neighborhood, he's a great dad & not an addict. Depending on the age of the children, they may have a say in what visitation they want or don't want. In cases like this, a GAL may be appointed to do a custody investigation. Trust me, I hear countless stories everyday of "my friend said..." Don't listen to your friend.