Originally Posted by
james186 I know, it's insane to expect moderation to work when I've tried so many times before. I realize now how pointless it is to not stop for the sake of someone else. For starters, if I carry on doing this kind of thing, there won't be a relationship anyway and I'll have achieved neither sobriety or saving the relationship.
Realizing all this is very important. However, it's not going to change anything until you commit to facing the issue and taking action.
Start small - what is your goal for today?