Katie44: I recognize your username, and I am glad that you came here when you needed some help.
You know that everyone here will encourage you to hold him accountable. I hope you do that for your sake, your husband's sake, your daughter's sake, and your beloved son's sake. Think of it this way - the most damaging thing you could do to your son is to not hold him accountable and to give in to his pleas. Please do the right thing by him.
Sojourner