Originally Posted by
Jupiters 
Sorry you're going through this, but if drinking is the only thing you guys do together, don't you think that's a problem? Especially if you are honestly trying to get sober?
May be time to sit down and have a serious, sober talk.
Yes. I think her drinking is a problem irrespective of my own too. She drinks every day, usually a bottle of wine. That is on top of the odd night out or whatever. She doesn't see that as a problem, but I do, I think it's too much and it's costly. She doesn't get "drunk" and start acting out, so it doesn't appear to be a problem in her mind or anybody else's. I always end up thinking I'm projecting my problem onto her and drop the subject.