Life choices do matter. Sometimes we chose to help b/c our capacity for empathy and compassion is much higher than others.
And sometimes we chose to help b/c we were wired from our birth families to only feel loved when we were care giving.
It is important that we offer the same empathy and compassion to ourselves that we offer the stranger or our addicts.
Most of us are bottomless when it comes to compassion for others.....but for ourselves....not so much.
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