Originally Posted by
dandylion 
lizatola....after the separation....it will be easier to just put him out of your mind because you aren't living together. It is so much easier when you don't see and talk to them every day and you aren't aware of every breath that they take. out of sight--out of mind.
You will see what I am talking about....
dandylion
I agree with this...it does take time....my AH has been our of the house for almost 3 months now (ex for a distrous week after detox). He's been threatening suicide, had several attempted etc and last night for the first time he did a half threat on a call with me, didnt respond to a text, and I just let it go. I am finally starting to realise that if he is going to fall to misadventure, or kill himself that I cant alter that outcome or change what is going to happen.
If he did of course I'd be devatstaed, but me hamster wheeling about it doesnt help him, and it just diminished my care of myself and our kids.