I suggest Al-anon too. My meeting I attend consistently is all women and a lot of then have adult children qualifiers. It's heartbreaking but they really are doing their kids a disservice by not allowing them to suffer the consequences of their actions.
I warn my almost 3 year old all the time to not run in the house because she trips over the rugs. Of course, she doesn't listen to me, I'm just her mom, what do I know, running is much more fun than walking. Today she had a big fall after running and tripping on a rug. Guess who didn't run in the house again today... Your daughter needs to fall and scrape her knees so she'll learn that she doesn't want to do this crap anymore. You keep catching her before she gets scraped up.