jt,
once again, sorry about all the stuff going on in the house. i guess ican say ur in my prayers, and i hear that " will someone please tell me the truth!!". i really hate the unsaids and lies involved in this illness. it really makes me crazy, and i really wonder why no one can tell the truth. oh well i guess other family members like ward are trying to protect u. keep trying to work on the communication thing, it's hard for families to let go of the herd of elephants and all the secrets. it sounds like u've got a good handle on the reality. best of everything to u and yours. i'll say a big prayer for beav, sorry for the crisis. have a good new year's eve, and know i'm grateful to have u out there and sharing your path.
hugs from sugar