Just sharing a warning ripped from the pages of my own experience mate
I was always good at discerning what other people needed to do...less so with my self.
In the past I often lost sight of myself trying to help others. To me, with apologies to BC, that was co-dependency writ large.
I didn't mean suggest you were doing the same thing
The good thing is here if my waffle is no good to you someone else might get something from it
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